5 Reasons Adulting isn’t that Bad

Millennials everywhere are adulting … or at least attempting to adult.

We adult and then we ask ourselves, “Is this really happening? Is this really me?” Full time job. Friends getting married and having babies. Talking about mortgages and IRA’s and “adulty” stuff. Are we really becoming adults? Our parents always did that adulty stuff… now us? Whoa… is this real?

Urban Dictionary simply defines adulting this way:

Adulting: to do grown up things and hold responsibilities such as, a 9-5 job, a mortgage/rent, a car payment, or anything else that makes one think of grown ups.

And to be honest, on the spectrum of adulting, I am full-fledge in it. With a husband, 2 kids (and another on the way), a full-time job, a mortgage… I am pretty much the definition of an adult. But still, I pinch myself to remember that this is real life, and I am full-fledge adulting.

Just the other week, I found myself listening to a nostalgic summertime song, and it brought back memories from 10+ years ago when I was in my late teens/early twenties. The song made me remember the endless summer days, responsibility-free life, and young love. “Ahhhh”, I subconsciously thought, “those were the days”.

“Those were the days” … but were they really “THE DAYS”? I have numerous decades left to live, so I sure hope that 10+ years ago was not the peak of life enjoyment!


This adulting stuff is hard.  And, sure the carefree, young, responsibility-free life was good for a season, but honestly, I believe that every decade should get better and better.

Just because adulting is hard, does not mean it is bad. (see Life is Hard: 3 Tips to Do More Than Survive post for more on that topic)

It is fun to joke about adulting, but at some point we have to embrace the fact that adulting is not that bad, but instead it has the potential for lots of good!

Check out these 5 Reasons Why Adulting Isn’t That Bad…

1. Adulting Can Make You a Better Person

We all love people who are thoughtful, caring, selfless, giving, and others-focused. When we adult well, we make our life about other people. We go out of our way to help a co-worker who is in need, we selflessly love our spouse, we think of ways to help people in our lives. Caring about other people (and not just caring about our own life) comes with responsibility, but it is a good responsibility and it makes us a better person.

2. Adulting Can Multiply Your Potential Impact on the World

With adulthood comes increased maturity, experience, and financial resources. The impact we can make as a teenager or a young twenty-something continues to multiply the older we get. Embrace opportunities to adult, because increased experience, maturity, and financial resources expand the scope of our positive influence on the world around us.

3. Adulting Brings Deeper Levels of Satisfaction

Independence brings ownership and ownership brings satisfaction. Sure, we used to be satisfied when mom or dad bought us new clothes for school – it was great and we did not have to work for it. But the level of satisfaction we get from working hard and paying for something with our own hard-earned cash, is a much deeper satisfaction.

4. Adulting is Our Design

By design, everything in nature is created to grow from a seed to an adult. Just like a tree grows from a seed to a tree that bears fruit, we are designed to grow from infancy to adulthood. Life works best when we yield to the natural growth process of maturation. Scriptures even have lots to say about growing up. Ephesians 4:14-15 talks about how “we should no longer be children… but grow up in all things”.

5. Adulting Empowers You to Dream Big, Chase your Dreams, and Live the Life of Your Dreams

When we are dependent on mom and dad in any way, we are not fully released to have full ownership of our life and live the life of our dreams. The awesome thing about adulting is that we  can dream big dreams, and with God’s help (and a lot of hard work), our dreams can come true.

So, at the end of the day, we are becoming adults and it is weird. But adulting isn’t that bad, and there is huge potential for multiplied good in our life and in the lives of those around us as we adult well.

So, let’s embrace adulting and adult well!

Don’t be childish in your understanding of these things. Be innocent as babies when it comes to evil, but be mature in understanding matters of this kind. 1 Corinthians 14:20 NLT

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Erica Giesow

Erica Giesow

Erica is the Director of EPIC Commission College-age Discipleship Program at Valley Family Church in Kalamazoo, MI. She is wife to Eric and mom to Ella & Eli. Erica loves heartfelt conversations, animal looking (not touching), and a little coffee in her cream.
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